DiscussionEffects of Affirmation: Gender Identity vs Sexual Orientation

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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yep, and one common way that many of us get a little taste of what this feels like is when we learn we’ve been cheated on. It’s like a never-ending series of realizations because each time you recall a memory you have to reprocess it through that lens.

[–]fuck_reddit 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep! Being cheated on is typically the most damaging scenario because it's a person you think you know so well, that you've done a ton with, and has lied to you in a very fundamental way. So much of your perception of the world becomes entwined with them. I think being constantly "validated" as a trans person is probably one of the only things that can surpass that in its damage, because it's not their perception of someone else, but their perception of themself. Additionally, it makes them rethink every interaction with every person since the last time they were told the truth. It's horrifying for me to imagine what that would be like...