DiscussionEffects of Affirmation: Gender Identity vs Sexual Orientation

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[–]fuck_reddit 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I've heard it explained from a psychological perspective that the reason discovering someone has lied to or betrayed us affects us so deeply is because it affects not only how we view the present, but all at once we have to reconsider the veracity of every relevant memory. The larger or more pervasive the lie, the more memories are affected, and the more deeply it affects us. To me, the entire gender ideology is a house of cards because its one, big lie. All these trans individuals are being told "TWAW" by the majority of the people they interact with, but it only takes one moment to shatter that. Further, the more people have indulged their delusion, the more deeply it impacts them.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yep, and one common way that many of us get a little taste of what this feels like is when we learn we’ve been cheated on. It’s like a never-ending series of realizations because each time you recall a memory you have to reprocess it through that lens.

[–]fuck_reddit 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep! Being cheated on is typically the most damaging scenario because it's a person you think you know so well, that you've done a ton with, and has lied to you in a very fundamental way. So much of your perception of the world becomes entwined with them. I think being constantly "validated" as a trans person is probably one of the only things that can surpass that in its damage, because it's not their perception of someone else, but their perception of themself. Additionally, it makes them rethink every interaction with every person since the last time they were told the truth. It's horrifying for me to imagine what that would be like...