DiscussionAnyone kind of afraid that they'll never have a positive outlook on the trans community?

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[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 33 insightful - 3 fun33 insightful - 2 fun34 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

Omg, this could be written by me. I kind of miss the old days where I was ignorant and thought trans people were naive and just wanted to live their lives. I have the same "problem" as you now. Honestly, I don't think there's a solution. I'm also very wary not only of trans people but of ANY lgb(tq+) person. I look for "red flags" and try to see if they're "woke" or attention seeker or have some kind of mental health issues. This is also true for trans people. For my own safety as a lesbian, I make sure I don't have any contact with any trans woman. I only met one in a lgb(tq+) meeting and he was a total bloke and became easily obsessed with me. Ew. So now I make sure I don't tell my sexuality to a trans person and it will also depend on the lgb person. If I see it's someone reasonable, then we can totally be friends. But if I see a clear "I'M SO GAY" 24/7 behavior from that person, I'm better off not being friends with that person. I just want to meet regular non attention seeking homo or bisexual people. But as we tend to be more discreet (because guess what, we have more personality than being gay), it's harder to find ourselves. It wouldn't be so hard if now the TQ+ wouldn't have taken over everything 😩 Anyway, sorry, I really don't have any advice. Just to let you know that I know exactly how you feel. Hugs!

[–]8bitgay 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But as we tend to be more discreet (because guess what, we have more personality than being gay), it's harder to find ourselves.

This is one of the saddest things about how the TQ+ narrative spread. We are already a minority, but now even the few spaces where we could find each other are mostly taken.

Gosh, do you remember when you could go to LGB spaces and see people just talking about casual stuff? And people sharing their experiences of homophobia and giving each other support too. Now it's hard to spend a week in a LGB space without someone bringing up trans issues...

[–]FrostyNugsI'm allergic to nuts 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Same! Modern "queer" culture has made me very cautious around other LGB people. If I'm being honest, I tend to avoid contact with them if I can. I try to keep an open mind, but I'm so, so fucking tired of being lectured at over stupid shit that would bother no reasonable person because it's a "microaggression" or somehow otherwise problematic. I especially avoid other women who call themselves lesbians because they're usually the most preachy, and if they hear that I'm gay they take it as an invitation to tell me how they're sooooooo gay (usually because they don't follow gender stereotypes) or how omg men are trash (except for their boyfriend, he's the exception.) Bonus points if they lecture me for being close minded for not trying dick, or call me a liar when I say I've never been attracted to a guy. Most of them go on to either a "bi lesbian" or "non-binary lesbian" phase, but only after screeching on social media for a month or so about how these things are both totally uwu valid.

[–]our_team_is_winning 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

(except for their boyfriend, he's the exception.)

Lesbians with boyfriends = not lesbians

If you're 14, genderspecial might be a "look at me, I'm edgy" phase, the way "Satanism" used to be; but if you're an adult, this is mental illness. Does the OP really mean "I'm afraid I won't have a positive outlook toward mental illness"? Because you shouldn't have. They need professional help. And TW endanger women at the same rate regular men endanger women, and that's sadly quite high.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Pretty all the "my boyfriend is the exception" types ive met are actually dating the very type of man they say they are against and shun decent men. The disconnect is strong with them.