BisexualWhat do you think of Becky Albertalli's 'coming out'?

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[–][deleted] 34 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 0 fun35 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

Talented authors can write about experiences that aren't theirs. But her discovering her identity is very convenient.

[–]JulienMayfair 42 insightful - 1 fun42 insightful - 0 fun43 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

A straight man wrote the novel Call Me By Your Name upon which the movie is based. A straight woman wrote the story that became Brokeback Mountain.

Claiming you can't write about anything other than your own experience is just more toxic identity politics.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hear, hear. Well-said.

[–]just_lesbian_things 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Are they good romance stories of gay relationships? I've watched the latter but only seen the trailer for the former and I can't get over how strangely alien the stories feel to me, in a way. I wasn't sure if it was the art school Oscar bait vibe or if it's because I'm a lesbian with very limited exposure to gay men.

I don't doubt that non-lesbians can write good lesbian stories, but it doesn't happen very often. All the well-written lesbian stories I can recall had been created by lesbian authors. Most of the time, when non-lesbians write lesbian stories, it gives me the same weird alien vibe with the occasional, gross, overdone stereotype on top. Lesbian writers aren't immune to it, but non-lesbian creators of lesbian stories are almost always guilty.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Not the poster you were replying to, but lesbian stories have always seemed like a unique case to me. Even women have trouble writing women as people.

In the same vein I don't think even lesbian writers write truly lesbian stories. It's still filtered through the lens of a distinctly male centric culture that we're all results of.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think so. A lesbian author write something based on being a female attracted to others female. Male centric culture and heterocentrism influence everything, but if there is someone who can write something genuine on the topic on women/women love is a lesbian.

[–]RedditVihaaLesboja 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

From what I've heard, Call Me By Your Name is...let's say not good.

[–]jiljol 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Reminds me of Mara Wilson, the actress who played Matilda in the movie. She just CONVENIENTLY realized she was a "mostly straight bisexual" (<- her own words) immediately after the Pulse shooting and just as she was releasing some lame book about her short-lived career. She has dropped the "mostly straight" part nowadays because she realized it wasn't the woke thing to do.

It's totally cool to profit off of a horrible tragedy, guys!

[–]julesburm1891 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

And she’s always on about TQ issues on twitter. Sis, just stop.

(Also, oddly enough, Ben Shapiro is her cousin.)

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh dang...did not know they were related! I looked up Mara Wilson and how she looks like now---Both Shapiro and Wilson have very similar features, might be able to pass off as siblings...

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I had JUST read her recently-out memoir a few weeks before that happened and she literally has ZERO content in there about being bisexual or even having bicurious feelings. She didn't drop even ONE hint. (Or maybe I'm bad at picking them up?) And she has a lot of intimate/cringy details about her awkward love-life with boys. I'm not saying she's lying, because the same thing happened with Margaret Cho's memoirs, she had several books out where she was 'straight/bi' and then she suddenly came out as gay. Sometimes people just hide in the closet and this includes being dishonest in their memoirs but it was very unfortunate for her to choose to come out right after putting out a memoir like that. No one expects you to spread your vagina wide open and show us EVERYTHING in a memoir, but being LGB is a hell of a thing to leave out when you just come out a few weeks later anyways.