Your tone is comical but it's basically a true statement lol. The genderdumbs love to insist that "gay" is an identity and not a sexuality. I actually started arguing with these people over 10 years ago but they were generally perceived as kooks at first. Someone who was a paid staffer at a university LGBT center was adamantly trying to argue with me that the "straight" men on grindr were actually straight because gay and straight were identities. I think I really threw her off because she was used to having some sort of "expert credibility" and I'm really blunt. I basically said that they were just gays living in denial and her idea of gay as an identity was idiotic. She was just like "O_O" and dropped it. Now these people are backed up by hordes of twitterattis.