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[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

It’s definitely a loss of innocence. I think lots of these women are accepted with open arms and feel like they have a community and find out its conditional. That is a very depressing thing, and she’s probably trying to make it okay for herself so she can get the nice feeling back. Like when a loved one hits you and you blame yourself.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Thankfully I never wanted to being part of any community. The good thing about being super introverted lol

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

For sure. She's now caught in an abuse cycle. :( I hope it's a short one.

And I do think you have a point that thanks to the work of their forbears, it's probably been easier for some young women to be accepted as a sexual minority than it was for earlier generations, which easily could set them up to not see this coming or be adequately circumspect. Having to be wary really sucks but crappy people are not going anywhere, clearly—look at all of the young ones doing all this damage now.

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The change now is that the abuse coming from within the community is just as strong as the hate from fundamentalists toward our community. Not only do the TRAs hate their own, but they hate the whole world and expect all of us to change for them.

LGB have always been assholes to eachother here and there because we are different in many ways, but we were never willing to cut off the whole community’s nose to spite its’ face.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Which walks these unwitting kids right into a trap. The TRAs are adept at love-bombing. That's the bait. Like every predator they look for vulnerable prey, suck them in, and never let them read the fine print.

[–]uroborosjohnson 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There is so much wisdom in this thread.