Colonization"My first sign I was trans was wanting to be gay"

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[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 13 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 4 fun -  (9 children)

Well, personally seeing gay porn would be totally repulsive to me.So lesbians liking it, yeah, they got a serious problem LMAO

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Yeah. It’s really weird. Honestly, it’s really really really hard to imagine a real ass lesbian being into gay porn. It’s just really not lesbian to watch porn with two dudes, like, REALLY not lesbian. That’s the least lez thing I can even think of.

[–]artetolife[S] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

It's not such a strange concept when you consider that the "men" in yaoi don't look or behave anything like a real gay man, and the commnity built around it is almost exclusively female, so they are going online and roleplaying their sexual fantasies with other women.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I found the yaoi I have seen offensive stereotypes of men. It was pretty ridiculous. Is that what those women actually think of gay men?

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I admit I haven't dug very deep (I can spend about 5-10 minutes browsing before my 'Holy hell WTF am I looking at??' alarm kicks in.) But I know there is this one thing that's very popular, (or used to be?) the tops look like tall giant hulking basketball players in their 20's and the bottoms look like 10-12 year old skinny frail children. I know not all of them are like this, but this kind of pairing is/was pretty popular. And what I found interesting about it was that some of the girls/women were identifying with the bottoms, which is what people would assume a woman would naturally identify with (it makes my eyes roll even typing that) but a lot of these women/girls would identify with the big guy and objectify the little guy. And...... (I don't want to say internalized pedophilia, I want to stay positive) what I liked about it was that women were embracing their "inner tops" I guess.

I really don't understand what lesbians would get out of this kind of big older looking guy/smaller younger looking guy dynamic. It seems modeled on heterosexual gender roles but taken to the extreme.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, it’s also RAMPANT in lesfic. I assume it’s women who are not lesbians that have parental issues. The grossest thing about it is when they make the young person the aggressor, like ewwwwwwwwwww.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Or lesbians with parental issues? When considering that GNC children are way more at risk for abuse (I think I have seen a couple peer-reviewed articles on this topic), and many lesbians are GNC and have a higher rate of having sexual abuse histories, it makes a lot of sense to me why even lesbians might go down this path.

I kind of wonder how much all of this stuff-- from the transgender stuff and yaoi to BDSM-- might be related to covert sexual abuse going on. Overt too, but especially covert, which people might be able to more easily reason away as not "real" abuse. Children are the most sexually assaulted demographic, after all. Little girls.

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It is certainly possible. I just wish people wouldn’t use lesfic to work their weird stuff out because it makes us all look like major creeps, and those types of relationships are not the norm among lesbians, but to look at all the tropes you would assume so.

Most of the grossest stuff is femme/femme too. And femme/femme that doesn’t read very “lesbian” in the way femme lesbians actually are, so it leads me to believe it might not be lesbians writing them.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Lesbian kryptonite?

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Totally