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[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

How so...? I'm "closeted" and I doubt that my social life would get any better. It's not great right now but that's mostly due to depression and not meeting people. But if I "came out" publicly I could risk the friendships I already have.

[–]basetenprefix 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Personally speaking, I have found that I can never actually be close to anyone unless I'm out to them, because I constantly fear what you just stated: "But if I 'came out' publicly I could risk the friendships I already have." It was important for me to trust that my friends were truly friends because they knew me and who I was. Not the same for acquaintances or coworkers, who's opinions don't affect me as much, but friends yes. Can you have a fulfilling social life with people if you fear that they will leave you once they know the truth about you?

I don't see a reason to "come out" in some performative, grandstanding way, but privately, to people who you trust to care for you, I think is important.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think friendship is reliant on "accept everything I do or we cant be friends." That's unhealthy, and very much like TRA "cancel culture" and shaming. If I'm friends with someone it's because they are fun company to be around and I trust them, not that they agree with me 100%. In fact I'm somewhat upset that some of my friends are a bit too "woke" in regards to homosexuality, but I digress.

Can you have a fulfilling social life with people if you fear that they will leave you once they know the truth about you?

You absolutely can - just simply by hiding that truth. I've never found it hard to do so, and I'm a sex addict. As long as you're careful it's quite hard to get "exposed"

[–]notdelusionalbased faggot[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

It applies to people who are capable of having a fulfilling social life.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

How so? Explain please.

[–]notdelusionalbased faggot[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Bruh... really? Being open and truthful with people is a required part of building meaningful relationships.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Not for something that sensitive/inappropriate. I mean my friends don't typically tell me all about their sex lives... nor do I want them to.

[–]notdelusionalbased faggot[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The topic doesn't have to be about sex for someone to know you're into guys.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, I don't date guys, so SFW dating talk isn't going to come up either. If dating does come up, I usually leave it at "I'm single". If they push and outright ask me if I'm gay I just deny it