Gay MenFujoshi girl wonders why gay sex party isn't as inclusive as her college "queer" group.

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[–]artetolife[S] 33 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 0 fun34 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

When I had my cruisey phase I wasted my time and money about 50% of the times I went because nobody wanted me or my own confidence let me down. That's just how it goes lol. I think the "friend" really did set her up, there's no way I'd take someone to that kind of party for the first time without explaining the ettiquette and what to expect.

[–]LiterallyawomanTERF IRL 32 insightful - 4 fun32 insightful - 3 fun33 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

You mean I can’t just say I’m a man I actually have to have other desirable traits like a personality and social intelligence? These people really think they can be emotionally stunted adults that slap on a new gender identity and suddenly no need to work on themselves or even know themselves they’ll just become desirable. Honestly the biggest turn off about trans is how it broadcasts how little you know or are comfortable with yourself.

[–][deleted] 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Agreed. They think that other person - the version of them that was their "assigned" sex had the problems. This new version, the adaptation of a new identity, leaves all the problems behind without having to face them. When people talk about not wanting to date them, it's like who can blame them? They're literally wearing their mental health problems, advertising their shit for everyone to see. Like, you want acceptance? Start with self-acceptance.

[–]jjdub7TERF (Trans Exterminating Reactionary Fascist) 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They think that other person - the version of them that was their "assigned" sex had the problems.

This. I think this point alone cuts right to the heart of the underlying issue that manifests itself as "transgenderism" in a majority of non-HSTS individuals.

Speaking from his own experiences, Walt Heyer attributes this explicitly to unresolved traumas that metastasize into identity dysregulation.

[–]PainfulTruthsMatter 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean seriously, those kinds of events are stressful enough as it is if you're struggling with body image issues without suddenly feeling obligated to cater to someone of the opposite sex showing up and demanding instant gratification and validation.

[–]insta 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

those kinds of events are stressful enough as it is if you're struggling with body image issues

Never really understood them. If you want to hookup Grindr is such an easier way to do than to go to these parties. I've never really had the high libido other gay guys have had but nonetheless I've never understood these events.