How will the young TQ+ cope with bodily aging?

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[–]BEB 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

I haven't seen Botched. I have just noticed that among women, even among women my age and older, there's this drive to "fix" their looks, that might have been always there but is now taken to the extreme.

Of course, the constant pressure from being exposed to the images of the beautiful doesn't help, but I think that plastic surgery has been normalized to the masses to the extent that "everyone" is doing it.

That's kind of understandable with women my age and older because we are morning our lost beauty. But all these very young women getting fillers and breast implants and liposuction and...when they are fresh and young to begin with and should enjoy their vibrant healthy look while it's there, instead of looking like dead-eyed, late middle-aged, Drag Queens.

And I do think that the normalization of plastic surgery (which is related to mental issues in some) has led to the idea of transgenders being more accepted, because the thought that's become pervasive (in the US at least) is if you don't like your body, or your YOU, just change it!

[–]powpowpowpow 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I think plastic surgery was always associated with older women or men but as time passed they started to market it to younger people too, as a magical way for you to get rid of your insecurities and build your ideal self.

I think Kyle Jenner was a big part in normalizing plastic surgery for young women, considering when she was 17yo she looked completely different from what she used to look like

[–]BEB 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I agree; the Kardashians in general did a lot of harm to young women, and I know that probably wasn't their intention.

Kyle Jenner is such a sad case (despite being a "billionaire") - after all that surgery she looks like a 45-year-old plastic surgery victim when she's all done up.

[–]powpowpowpow 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah its fucked up, I have body dismorphia and if I leave it unchecked I get very obsessive about my appearance so I always wonder how many ppl who get lost on doing so much to themselves also have that and a whole market is there to profit off it :/

[–]BEB 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I don't think you're alone. Probably ever since magazines became widely available, women especially have been encouraged to obsessively compare themselves to others. Now, with the internet, plastic surgery, make up, filters, etc., we are forced to look at images of "perfect" people everyday.

But do try to learn to love your body. One thing to remember is that you are most probably judging yourself way harsher than anyone is judging you. This sounds shallow, but if you'll notice, many famous movie stars have very imperfect bodies. Their confidence blinds people to their flaws, so try to be like them - focus on your good points and try to take your mind away from your imperfections.

[–]powpowpowpow 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yesterday I saw this awesome quote which was: my body isn't the most interesting thing about me, so why should I care so much?

And honestly that helped lol, I never looked at it like that

And for sure... even close friends now use photoshop/face tune, its widespread to oblivion

[–]BEB 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That quote is great; I'm glad you're taking it to heart.

Seriously, next time you see a big star take note of their imperfections. I know that sounds very shallow, but what I'm trying to get at is that no one is perfect, so give yourself a break.

I've met dozens of celebrities and they look so different in real life. Many you could have walked right past on the street and not recognized. There are only a few that I felt had "star power" in person, and yes, their bodies (and faces) are often nowhere close to perfect IRL.