I'm not saying there's not a difference. You can acknowledge that fetishes/paraphilias occur more frequently in men without saying any woman who experiences them is being inaccurate or saying that women don't experience them at all point blank. Physical aggression is also more common in men but it is not solely a male trait. As someone mentioned above, anyone with sex organs can develop a fetish/paraphilia under the right conditions. Just because this happens less often in women doesn't mean it never does, nor that these occurrences are statistically insignificant. IMO the rise in TiFs who fetishize gay male relationships, and gay men in general, is proof that women with this particular fetish now have an outlet in which is considered 'okay' to act it out. Otherwise they'd be silent about it because "women don't have fetishes" so you'd never hear about them. Outside of fandom circles anyway, yaoi fangirls have always been pretty loud there.

Statements that box people in like "men/women don't/never X" only add to the problem of more people thinking they were born the wrong sex. The same way you aren't going to disguise what you consider an important distinction in this case, I'm not going to disguise that statements like this contribute to the problem of needlessly trapping people in gender boxes based on their behaviors.

To make things clear, I'm not here to glorify paraphilias. They're very unhealthy no matter who has them. But to say they never occur in women at all under any circumstance, and that all women who claim to experience them are just lying to themselves is just not true.