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[–]sisterinsomnia 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I am so sorry. I can relate to some of your life experiences, though my views are of course just my views:

I would distance myself from them because all they do is hurt you and that is not how families are supposed to act. You are not the person on whose shoulders the whole family should stand and you are not responsible for maintaining contact with your family when they give you no support at all.

You have your own family now and your in-laws and they deserve more of your energy and affection because they also return it.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Back then, I was on my own away from them all. However they keep popping back up in my life. I think I should go revist some memories of why...I even have journals from years ago to rember things. I try to forget the bad in the present moment, but write it down just in case...if I wonder why I stopped/started doing something(ex. Why don't I go visit family again?)

I just get kinda envious that the people around me have families they're close to and visit them..

To be honest, I'm kinda neutral with my in-laws. They're nice to me and all but their past makes me wary of them(i.e. domestic violence, alcoholics, child neglect, child physical/mental abuse, traditional gender roles too...etc)...my significant other forgave them but I really hated how they treated him and how one of them in particular still treats him to this day. I just shut my mouth and let him handle it because I know he'll get upset if I say something to his family.

Thanks for your support btw and sorry that you also related to some of these things---It's not fun at all to experience...