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[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yeah I guess just internally accepting it helps and it just deafens the more you get called it by others. It's like "Okay, and what?" type of thing since it's such a buzz word these days just like "TERF" is lol.

[–]SanityIsGC 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

They just glom onto words regardless of their meaning. I have severe arachnophobia. I damn well know a phobia is when someone can't even look at whatever the object of dread let alone being in the same space. I doubt any GC is phobic about trans people. I know I'm not as I had two friends in the 80s who were trans. I'm pissed off and deeply concerned with the totalitarian mindset that they want to inculcate.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

As somone who has bad arachnophobia as well, EXACTLY. We don't fear trans people, we just know the reality and have no problem speaking it. It's not out of fear, it's out of understanding.

[–]fuckupaddams 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Did you lose contact with those friends? Did they fully believe they were exactly the sex they identified as?

[–]SanityIsGC 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I did lose contact but I can tell you the trans mindset was so different then. Marie was the older one, in her 30s, had surgery and was very lowkey. Her being trans was not brought up. There was no ideology or cultish vibe to it. I knew her thru Tony who was in his 20s. He had had a number of facial surgeries and was seeing a psychiatrist but not yet taking hormones. I always had a sense that his being trans was something on the side. He referred to himself as a trannie but he wasn't totally identified with it. There was never any demand that anyone in our circle of friends had to refer to him with feminine pronouns or any anyway change how we interacted with him.He would though talk obsessively about Barbie dolls which he collected so maybe back then it was easier to express his feelings and aspirations through his Barbie monologues.