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[–]Penguinberri 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I took my trans friend on his first 'girls shopping trip'. We went and got him measured for a bra, had a make over and bought female clothes. It was a nice day but also weird because I have never done the thing we were doing (grew up poor so never have had a proper bra fitting I always grab cheap bras from asda, don't wear makeup because I work in a lab all day, and I get my clothes from charity shops not places like zara etc).

The crazy thing is at the time it felt so supportive but he is actually the reason I peaked. We did all these 'female' coded things then when I talked about how our school was setting up a separate bathroom for transgender students he got really angry because that would be othering them. I tried to explain that I've worked in a school for years and have actually caught male and female students doing things in bathrooms before (I work in Upper school so these were 16/17year olds) so I know from first hand experience that hormonal teenagers can't always control themselves.

His complete black and whiteness over the school bathroom issue peaked me. Plus he was a 26year old man who didn't work in education so why was he so bothered.