Are we conditioned to ignore sexism?

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[–]Immortallogic 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You're right, this is well known. Women often get their ideas stolen by men, or told it's a bad idea then they say these same thing and get credit for it. It's one of the most basic types of sexism. We're all brought up in a male centric and patriarchal society and these things are super common. You're not being paranoid at all lol. Check out s/pinkpillfeminism Herr, for more info, if you want.

What can you do? Call it the fuck out. Who cares if they think you're a bitxh? You can do it in a way where they look dumb. "right... That is exactly what I just said". Or, just go directly to your superiors with your idea's, so you get credit for them. Don't take anything for granted in society, alot of it is rigged against women to keep us down and 'in our place'. Being nice and polite isn't going to get you anywhere. Look out for yourself, learn not to be emotional when dealing with shit like this (because it'll make you more credible), and accept that most men are sexist, it's a combination of socialization and biology. If you want some help in a dating context, check out r/femaledatingstrategy on Reddit too

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, you right. I shouldn't give rats ass about what they think.

Oh lol, now that I think about it I might be VERY assertive or closer to being aggressive? Haha. I've been calling out my bosses which gets me scolded a lot, just like a couple of days ago. One of my bosses kept talkig over me and pissing me off. He was talking to me condescendingly and I told him "No, that's not what I'm talking about.". Then he'd say "Well did you verify [basic ass thing] with customer's XYZ?". Yes, of course I did, I put it in my notes, can't you see it?(yes, lol I said something to that affect was getting angry) , and yes I'm in the STEM field but low entry job).

As for the group meetings, those fuckers won't liaten and do their work. One IS a superior above me who's lazy. So...yeah. I use my friend as a mouth piece so they can get off their ass and work on their sections. Even if I tell them that's what they need to do and assert myself, they don't listen and waste my time.

I tried to play "nice" at first, since I have experience in project#1 for different department and let them speak at first. Then I noticed how shit isn't going anywhere and they would just be spending half an hour complaining about how to word stuff instead of getting the shit we need done. So, I took over to actually get stuff done, they didn't like it. I help mentor newbies occassionally, so that's part of thr reason I wanted to get project#2 for our department done.

Lol sorry for rambling off...my job has been frustrating as hell.

I am the bitch at work. I'm juat getting tired lol.

[–]Immortallogic 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It sounds like your work environment is pretty toxic and openly sexist tbh. You shouldn't have to speak through your friend, thats total bullshit.

If there is a superior that you feel you can level with, do it. Or just put your head down, do some work to get experience, but start looking for another job like.... Yesterday.

STEM is really in demand and will continue to be so. I'm sure you can find something if you know your shit. If you have learning opportunities, take them. If there are others who know more than you at work, try to have them mentor you.

I wish you good luck, and I also would suggest just doing your work, not socializing too much with your colleagues etc (especially the males), and also don't volunteer to do too much if you're not going to get credit/paid for it. Too often women are too nice, caring and empathetic, and unfortunately men see those things as weakness. So while your intentions are good (as well as your actions), they may be perceived as you being willing to be a doormat.

I obviously don't know the dynamics of your life, job, or personality, so take everything I say with a grain of salt, but I hope some of it can help.

Hang in there and count your blessings that you still have a job in these times! Gl sis