Most of the pro-kink crowd don't really know what a fetish is.

A fetish is not just liking something other than genitals sexually, people with fetishes usually can't be sexually satisfied unless they have their specific kink on hand.

It's actually highly limiting to have a fetish. Boring vanilla people can get turned on by all sorts of stuff, whether they act on it or not, but fetishists are pretty much sterile to everything but their obsession. They are boring people.

Seriously I've had plenty of fetishist friends and they are literally the safest, dullest people on a friendship level, and usually on a personality level too, because all their mental effort goes into organising their overly complex sex libes and finding the unicorns they can get to join in. I mean one of them was a forensic scientist and she could have kept us entertained forever with stories from her work but actually those stories were throwaway asides to her, she much more wanted to tell us all about the problems with eating cold custard off a bloke's hairy arse because that's what she considered important in life.