Very much agree with this. Of course it is not only young girls who may be at risk here: anyone e.g. already traumatized, or who has a lesser understanding of one's boundaries is likely to participate in acts they actually are not comfortable with.

Reminds me of a woman I used to know, she was in her early twenties back then, and had little (if any) experience in sex prior to meeting her boyfriend. If I remember correctly this was her first sexual partner. What the guy used to tell her is that he couldn't come if she was wet: which meant that he'd start pounding her while she was still dry as the Sahara. Needless to say, it hurt - so she told me and another female friend. We were alarmed and told her this was not OK at all and it sounded more like rape than sex. But she only existed to please The Man, of course, so she'd "accept" this was the one and only way to have sex. The guy would also (so she told) laugh at the fact that she had a few odd hairs around her butthole - that was apparently unwomanly and also hilarious. She'd have to shave herself completely, I imagine while holding a microscope to her nether areas to ensure NO horrible stray hairs were visible! The dude himself looked like Oscar the Grouch, by the way...

This just to say that it indeed isn't just young girls that will fall prey to this. I knew this woman around 2012, since then things have gotten far worse - not just for her, but all females, it feels.

I think all of this is hard to say without making it like I'm saying all non-vanilla sex is bad.

I get what you mean. There are distinctions though. Someone smarter already posted about this, but for the life of me I cannot find that reply now. :D Anyway, I totally understand your point. One needn't be anti-fetishist to be against forcing and normalizing porn/kinks to young girls and boys.