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[–]jelliknight 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No one is ever entitled to children. If we can't produce our own gametes and find someone willing to mix theirs with ours, we don't get to have kids. It's not a right. I do think both men and women have been taught to expect certain things from their partner, especially sexual reproduction, without ever making it explicit. It's just a more offensive when it comes in the form of "you must carry a child for me" rather than "you must allow me to create a child with your genetic material". Both expectations are wrong, but one has more weight in it. It's always going to be a negotiation, even if you've agreed to have kids, how many? What if you agree the have three kids, but after having two he doesn't want more because he feels he wont be able to invest enough in them, but she wants another as agreed. It's always going to be difficult.