RANT: I am really tired

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[–]blahblahgcer 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Same. I am so, so sick of seeing trans issues everywhere. Everyone I know is becoming trans. I just want to go one day without hearing of it.

It's even worse because I was nonbinary for a year so I know the inner workings of it and can see how bad it is. But I can't say anything. It makes me want to avoid everyone. Seeing how my childhood best friend and I went from both iding as nonbinary last year to me desisting and her going full ftm is so sad and unnerving.

But I always worry about if I'm on the right side of history. I dont know anyone who's also gender critical. Everyone is so obsessed with trans things. And I want people to be happy and be free and stuff but idk. I just feel conflicted a lot

[–]SameOldBS 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

If obliterating women turns out to be the right side of history, then it's not a HIStory I want to be in.

[–]Agodachi[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's sad to see womanhood being redefined and regurgitated while manhood isn't being affected in the same way.

[–]sisterinsomnia 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It is not possible to predict what the right side of history will be. All we can do is to try to be as honest, clear and compassionate (in the Buddhist sense) in our thinking as possible and to keep testing our basic values.

There are cases where the rights or desires of different people stand in clear conflict, and the way forward in such cases is to openly discuss this conflict and to try to find solutions to it. The right way forward is not to try to stifle all debate or to just ignore the rights /desires of one side. Similar cases come when religious rights clash with, say, women's rights.

I have no idea how the future will look, but I am completely certain that we are right now seeing social contagion and something similar to those historical events where one cause or issue suddenly swamped everything else for a certain length of time and then petered off. Because of the Internet this particular contagion is much more widespread and because of the profit incentives in it for the medical industry it may take longer for it to fade to some much lower level.

[–]Agodachi[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Being compassionate is important. A lot of people who peak state that they realized that GC people aren't as bad as TRAs paint these TERFs out to be.

I suppose it makes me feel better when I think about how in the past, people who spoke out against religion were considered heretics and nowadays (at least in Western society) that no longer happens. Also with things like leeches and how doctors used to throw those suckers on every chance they got but it didn't help, and now that isn't standard medical practice. It at least gives me home that in a few years these instant transitions will come to an end.

[–]DistantGlimmer 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I think the view that there's a "right side of history" and that the "good guys" always win in the end is dangerous and simplistic. I think we just have to follow our own moral compass and stand with what we know is right for the largest number of people. GC people are not actually transphobic no matter how much they try to paint it that way. GC doesn't hate people simply for expressing themselves differently or being mentally ill or anything else that would be obviously bigoted.

I do believe that there's a cultish element to it and the people who are sucked in to the cult thinking are currently blind to that. It's morally wrong to knowingly go along with cultish brainwashing just because it may make some people happy in the short term

[–]Agodachi[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You have a very valid point there. Life is so complex there really isn't a way to simplify it into a "right" or a "wrong" side. And I have noticed that a majority or GC feminists are not transphobic, but the TRAs and their allies paint us in that way.

[–]DistantGlimmer 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It suits the TRA narrative to paint GC as just transphobic. Acknowledging any nuance in it would just get some people to actually listen to what GC feminists have to say and TRAs definitely don't want that because their arguments do not hold up to any kind of scrutiny.

[–]Agodachi[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Very true. Many people who have peaked have stated that they thought that "TERFs" were these evil and hateful people, but they realized it wasn't true.

They try to paint us in a negative light and we become demonized so that people feel bad or guilty about "seeing what the other side is saying." I know I did. I felt guilty when seeking GC sources as though I had to hide it.

[–]Agodachi[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's refreshing to hear that someone else feels the same. Not gonna lie, but I still feel a little sad that the GC groups on reddit were removed. GC Feminism had thousands of supporters and was growing, it had a lot of influence and sense of community there (especially with other groups like GCTroll, Gc_woc, itsafetish, thatneverhappens)