Can't take it anymore.

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[–]Tikiri 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is horrific! I’m SO sorry this is happening to you! I don’t even have words to describe how angry I am. Are you employed at the moment? Is there someplace you could move, to feel safe/safer? I know it’s cathartic to say how angry you are, but I’m scared these goons will trace your dating profile statements to you, and then try to get you fired from your job for “transphobia” etc. I’m reading so many stories about people who get hounded out of their jobs, graduate programs etc. for this reason (there’s a story about this on Quilette right now). So, please be careful! I don’t want you to be abused even more by these cretins. And STAY STRONG! I too cried when the subreddits got banned (I was just about to post and join in!), but they can’t put us down because here we are! I’d suggest joining all the GC sites you can (Ovarit, Spinster etc.), and also if you’d like, I’ll DM you some awesome radfem Instas! They’re all saving my sanity right now. I’m stealth on Insta because one of my dear friends started dating this god-awful TiM and she’s now connected to other TiMs including a famous one. I don’t want to get doxxed! But, I can’t keep quiet either. Don’t lose hope that you won’t find someone! I think most people are stealth because they don’t want their true ideas to be public due to the possible consequences. I’m straight, so I can’t really speak for lesbians, but the GC lesbians I see online all seem to be happily partnered (and they’re not older women who had all the opportunities to meet i.r.l. back in the day). I think building a network of like-minded women is the key for any woman navigating the pro-TRA world we live in, but it might be particularly vital for lesbians.

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Thank you. I am working from home doing consulting for my own business. I am about to leave the area. I am half packed already and plan to go to a super small area off grid if I can.

Thank you for warning me! I am so tired of not speaking up about it, it makes me sick!

I am on insta with only a couple of followers. Please DM!

I am just so exhausted!

Do you feel like me?

I have a couple of degrees, and I am not always taken seriously in my field because I am a woman. Because of what I look like, I am assumed by many in the "community" that I am not a lesbian, because I have long hair. Right now I am wearing jeans and a t shirt as I type to you. Maybe I am programmed to dress the way I do, it is certainly not for the male gaze.

I do not know if you are married or single, but I also get harassed by men as it is, and have difficulty just going to the store without being followed to my car, in the middle of the day, and guys get aggressive with me when I say no thank you and then turn it into an angry negotiation or get downright verbally abusive to me.

I do not own a gun, but having this all happen makes me want one badly.

Indeed, I have known TiMs chase. One works in a very high spot in tech. Another a musician. A couple of them are business owners. They see me and they see an object to manipulate, control, and have as a purse on their side.

I am so so sorry about your friend! I wonder if she is with him first out of pity in some way and excuses any bad behaviors because "trans". That was me when I started talking to some of these people initially as friends--I was excusing the bad behavior and saying they were this or that way because of trans. But the thing is, they were all acting in very similar ways and saying terrible things in similar ways, and that is when my lightbulb came on and I realized, holy crap, this is a disorder within itself!

I have had a couple of women already reach out on the dating apps and say that I said everything they have always wanted to say.

Hell I even brought up Tavistock.

I wrote a novel on iT! LOL

Thanks for the comment!

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Thank you. I am working from home doing consulting for my own business. I am about to leave the area. I am half packed already and plan to go to a super small area off grid if I can.

Thank you for warning me! I am so tired of not speaking up about it, it makes me sick!

I am on insta with only a couple of followers. Please DM!

I am just so exhausted!

Do you feel like me?

I have a couple of degrees, and I am not always taken seriously in my field because I am a woman. Because of what I look like, I am assumed by many in the "community" that I am not a lesbian, because I have long hair. Right now I am wearing jeans and a t shirt as I type to you. Maybe I am programmed to dress the way I do, it is certainly not for the male gaze.

I do not know if you are married or single, but I also get harassed by men as it is, and have difficulty just going to the store without being followed to my car, in the middle of the day, and guys get aggressive with me when I say no thank you and then turn it into an angry negotiation or get downright verbally abusive to me.

I do not own a gun, but having this all happen makes me want one badly.

Indeed, I have known TiMs chase. One works in a very high spot in tech. Another a musician. A couple of them are business owners. They see me and they see an object to manipulate, control, and have as a purse on their side.

I am so so sorry about your friend! I wonder if she is with him first out of pity in some way and excuses any bad behaviors because "trans". That was me when I started talking to some of these people initially as friends--I was excusing the bad behavior and saying they were this or that way because of trans. But the thing is, they were all acting in very similar ways and saying terrible things in similar ways, and that is when my lightbulb came on and I realized, holy crap, this is a disorder within itself!

I have had a couple of women already reach out on the dating apps and say that I said everything they have always wanted to say.

Hell I even brought up Tavistock.

I wrote a novel on iT! LOL

Thanks for the comment!