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[–]msteacherlady 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

That we are not different when it comes to things we are competent at, and that we are different when it comes to things men take for granted.

Examples: Idiot man complains about the computer he's using in a computer lab I managed, criticized how I went about solving the issue even after it was fixed.

Husband puts a grocery item only I use on a high shelf. Proceeds to explain to me that our height difference isn't that impactful. I have to stand on the counter to get it. I have to stand on the fucking counter for him to "get it".

[–]Marigold-plate 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

What did he say afterwards?

[–]msteacherlady 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Something like, "Get off the counter."

Following some larger argument later on, we had a calm sit-down conversation where he did express without prompting that he wanted to get better at making things easier for me to live here and trusting my judgement. We have our moments, but he's been doing pretty good. Covid has really been making living together challenging and I can't say he's the only unreasonable one at times!

[–]Marigold-plate 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m glad to hear something positive came out of it.