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If he loves you and wants to have a partnership where he values your input, then he will have no choice but to help. Discuss a chore chart, discuss solutions. Try to stay as calm as possible, and god damn if I don't understand how difficult that is, but coming to the table with vitriol can spring up an unnecessary argument that derails progress. Try to remember that men are all different but they each have their own ways of cleaning up (and yes, I'm defending them, but whoopty shit). I'm a control freak and like things the way that I like them done, but ultimately I'm overwhelmed and can't do everything alone. Even if the dishwasher isn't loaded the way that I know it'll actually get the gross shit off of the plates, it's a step.

I get it. I really do. If my marriage fails, I think I'll look for another hetero woman in the same situation and just treat it like a lesbian relationship with lesbian bed death or whatever it's called.