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[–]aldoushuxleyghost 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

THIS. If you're dating someone and after years you say nah, I don't want to marry you... it means I don't want to declare you part of my legal family and/or I want to be able to leave anytime I want. Marriage isn't a trap, it's a feature of civilized society, one where women, gays/lesbians now have the option to take or leave these days.

[–]bellatrixbells 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I see your point, but it can be a trap. I mean, you're still taking up a legal contract that can make you liable for a lot and might prevent you from ever being able to dissociate completely from the other party if they decide to be a jerk five years from now... and we've all seen our shares of ugly divorces too. It can be a moneyhole.