yep me too, i went through a long process once where i kept trying to "see things from their perspective" and of course, surely, wouldn't they base their demands on a set of beliefs which had some sort of internalized consistency? So I turned myself into a pretzel trying to make their position make sense but in the end i realized their ideology was much more akin to the ravings of an alien abductee.

brown cows produce chocolate milk, is what i was told as a child as a joke. Transpeople think tinkerbell is real.

I feel sorry for them but my sympathy does not extend to letting a middle aged man shower naked next to six year old girls at the community pool.