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[–]thea 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It is truly absurd! Yet another reminder to fight against post-truth philosophies: "gay" and "lesbian" have nothing to do with sexuality, "female" is literal violence, brilliant WOC activists are white feminists... I hope you can sense my eyerolling as I type.

I think in her own time she will. There's a bit of an age gape between us and in so many ways we are in political/philosophical agreement (liberal daughters of a conservative father). Honestly I think my slight pushback ("I think this is a disagreement of definitions. What do you suppose the definition of woman is?") frightened her in a way. When gendercritical and/or radfem women have been so thoroughly slandered as fascist "TERF"s responsible for the epidemic murder of transwomen, I can see how her own sister bringing up a "TERF" talking point forced her to suddenly reckon with me possibly being one of the "baddies."

Yet I remain the same liberal sister she's always known. Nothing else to do but hold the line I suppose!

[–]RevengeOfTheCis 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I bet there's also a possibility that your sister is afraid that answering your question won't only make YOU one of the "baddies", but might make her recognize that if she thinks about the trans issue long enough to answer your question, she'll discover she's one of the "baddies", too!

And to be fair, it sounds like she's in the age group where being outed as a TERF (or even being related to one) is social and career suicide, so it's understandable she's afraid to discuss it.