Loyalty is a wonderful trait. I admire it. Compassion also. But damn if I'm not sick to death of having them used against me.
This article is not a discussion of why it's unacceptable to say sex is a material reality. It's an emotional appeal.
Hell yes I understand why some women want to protect everyone, I applaud that. Nevertheless using women & girls as a shield, or discounting their fear and anxiety and desire for dignity is utterly unacceptable.
I'm afraid I find the argument that my enemy's concerns & position ar always wrong incoherent as that's demonstrably false.
I will answer the one concern that lesbians have been othered as men & blocked from women's bathrooms. Yep, that's happened. I, as a qender nonconforming lesbian get mistaken for a man & call sir from time to time.
The reason for this? IMHO strict gender stereotypes. I fail to see how perpetuating these strict gender stereotypes solves the issue. Surely dispelling the notion would allow the space for what invariably happens when I speak, or the person misgendering actually sees me as another person. "Oh, ma'am, sorry."
And none of the above demonstrates that simply speaking about sex based differences, & contending that sex is real, should be met with death, rape and other threats and wishes of massive harm.
I will not be manipulated using the exact same societal pressures to control women's (that's us to lesbians) speech and behavior used by the patriarchy, simply because they are deployed by those I've considered my own chosen family.
Sadly, whether I capitulate or not has no bearing on material reality. Sex remains real and women remain oppressed because of our sex.
The only difference is women can no longer object - and this lesbian lives in the hope that no lesbian wants that.
I will stand with women & girls & fight for their rights & die inside a little each time a compassionate person is manipulated into silencing women.
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