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[–]ellewoodswould 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think it’s important to make a private nest egg as a SAHM, because men can honestly leave on a whim. I look to my mom for info on this, she made 6 figures and had a great career but my dad got jealous and then she gave birth to my younger sister-who’s disabled-and was relegated to SAHM status. She didn’t mind it per se, besides being kind of bored at times, but when my dads abuse got worse and his affairs got more frequent she very quickly felt trapped. Whereas before she made her own money and had her own benefits and could leave when she wanted, she was now constantly on the edge of either pleading with my dad for sanity or walking away with her kids and the clothes on her back. It wasn’t until I was older and could afford to help us ALL move out that she was able to leave.

I absolutely believe that you can be a SAHM and support, promote, and engage in feminism. But never get too comfortable.