I sympathize and you are in no way a bad person. I recall having a screaming row about this with my partner a few years back (around 2014/15) ending with him leaving the house and me crying having been called a bigot etc. It took a few days to recover from and some organisation of research by me to show him what I meant. Years later he sees it all. We are gen x though (just to give you an age idea) and this wokethink isn't necessarily as ingrained in our friends etc. I don't know if this is just the initial knee jerk reaction from your boyfriend and whether he is capable of seeing your point of view eventually but I can honestly say it would have ended my relationship if we weren't at an understanding stage now. It's too fundamentally important to my feminism (partner always knew I had strong thoughts in that area) and we have kids! I couldn't be submissive or submit my opinion to his on this, even to keep the peace. Give it time, try to explain in a more organised way (visuals helped oh and stats, my partner does love numbers :) ) and take it from there. If he thinks silencing women en masse is ok, is he someone you want to spend your life with? This is a question you should be asking yourself now. But give him a chance first, even a few chances the peak isn't always reached instantly for people but if anyone really thinks about it (and I do mean employing critical thinking) it usually ends with more questions and in turn seeking more answers - that's the key, just the facts.