So RIP the Subreddit that saved me from being trans.

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[–]tiredofthis 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Your post suddenly brought to my memory my own puberty. I remember getting my breast buds when I was 10 and feeling what I guess people now describe as dysphoric. I remember feeling horrified watching my pubic area develop. I was so terrified of being a female adult, and had been ever since I was a toddler and saw that my menstruating mother got up from the toilet and inside it was all bright red. I probably would have tried to transition had I thought that that might be a choice to avoid periods and the sexual harrassment I had when growing up.

[–]madtofu 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've thought about this a lot. I had the same experience of being sort of horrified by menstruation and pubic hair and being unhappy when it happened to me. I had a sense that I was too young for that, that I wasn't ready for womanhood. (Of course I wasn't - I was 10. It wasn't about gender. Puberty is gross and scary for everyone.) I was also a tomboy and really pissed off that I couldn't play baseball and that people kept trying to get me to wear hot, scratchy dresses.

If I'd been born in 2000 instead of the 70s, there's no telling what might've happened to me. For the life of me, I don't understand why the progress stopped and we're moving backwards and enforcing gender norms so hard now that any kid who plays with toy cars is a boy and any kid who plays with dolls is a girl. That is some 1950s bullshit.

[–]blahblahgcer[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah that was kind of my experience too! According to trans people, because puberty is when transness really starts to ramp up, that definitely 1000% means your trans. They think that everyone is just so thrilled about their puberties.

[–]denverkris 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

everything means your trans.

[–]Cassandra2020 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is so true. Going through puberty in the late 1980s I hated getting breasts and periods were so bad I was dead set on a hysterectomy asap initially but I acclimatised, sorted out pain relief that worked for me eventually, got used to bras, etc. Puberty is a weird time and bodies are difficult and it can feel a bit like you're under attack but that isn't pathological and it doesn't mean our bodies are wrong.