Not what’s being said. Men are factually more likely to be violent or criminal. Women can be as well, but are so less frequently.

Men are statistically more likely to be violent or, but that doesn’t make men as a group inherently threatening to women.

Sex changes don’t happen. Performing the roles invested by sexism is not changing sex.

Is having a beard performing a role of sexism?

And there are women who would take away the rights of their fellow women to prove to a sexist ideology that they are a good little gender supporter.

So you're saying wanting all unisex bathrooms and not supporting gender critical ideology is the same thing as believing women shouldn't have the right to vote or women should be restricted to certain occupations?

They’re not representative of anybody outside their niche communities and not representative of the whole population. Especially when you make a point to not read any subs that discuss differing opinions to the ones you hold. That’s not evidence that’s cherry picking.

Even in those communities not everyone is a monolith and there are posts I read post by detransitioners on r/GenderCynical and r/FTM.

Detransition is rare. In a 2015 survey of nearly 28,000 people conducted by the U.S.-based National Center for Transgender Equality, only 8% of respondents reported detransitioning. 62% of those people said they only detransitioned temporarily. The most common reason for detransitioning, according to the survey, was pressure from a parent. There are other reasons of course, like the side effects of hormones weren't worth it, or they couldn't handle the social stigma of being trans. Only 0.4% of respondents said being trans wasn’t right for them. These are the people who transitioned due to internalized misogyny or homophobia, or had problems in their lives and thought being trans would fix it. They are only 0.4% of respondents.

That doesn't mean their opinions don't matter though. If a trans person wants top or bottom surgery, I do think we should do the bare minimum to ensure that the person really wants it and won't regret it. This should be true for any decision with big consequences, not just trans surgeries. We require licenses to get married. But I don't believe only detransitioners who regret their transition should be the ones deciding trans policies. That's like having only people who have been in serious accidents design cars. They will design the car to encase the driver.