Both: Why does rejection of femininity in South Korea differ so much from how it is rejected in the West?

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[–]worried19[S] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

There are a lot of people in the U.S. who deny sexism is even still a thing and women are gaslighted en masse to believe it isn't that bad.

Good point. As a teenager, I knew nothing about feminism beyond the fact that it wasn't thought of in a good light. I also thought that sexism had been "solved" and was no longer a major problem in the USA. I can see how girls who are being told by liberal feminism that femininity is feminist would be more likely to believe that rejecting femininity also means rejecting womanhood. It's crazy to me how things have gotten so turned around.

[–]Penultimate_Penance 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah it's nuts. I grew up religious, so I felt very strongly about sexism from a very young age since it was blatant in my little subset of American culture. Curious did you grow up with less blatant sexism in your local community?

[–]worried19[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It was there, just less blatant. Like my grandparents' evangelical church didn't allow women to be pastors, but I wasn't even aware of that until I was in my late teens. It wasn't on my radar. Somehow that never came up in Sunday school or VBS or Bible camp when I was a kid.

I feel like I missed a lot of female socialization because by the age of 5, I was pretty much "living as" and passing as a boy. I spent all my time with boys, played on their sports' teams, and didn't socialize with girls at all. I knew I was a girl, but I didn't think of myself as a "real" one. When I got into high school I did realize that a lot of heterosexual dating seemed sexist, and I wanted no part of that, but otherwise, it didn't appear to me like there was overt sexism. However, since I wasn't talking to women or girls much, I'm sure I overlooked a lot.