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[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Oh wow--what a life you've had already! I'm sorry it's been so hard and you've had to endure so much pain and abuse. I hope this isn't insensitive, and I am sorry to the moon and back if it is, but it sounds like such hardships helped you learn to love yourself and find peace in being the person you are. Do you think that is true at all? For me, I feel like experiences like that have helped me grow more as a person and learn how to love myself a little more. Practically speaking, how do you think a person could best try to find that confidence in themselves that you have found for yourself?

[–]censorshipment 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

With logic, to be frank. It's not possible to be confident and trans, imo... "transitioning" is a very bright indication of very low self-esteem. Being proud to be trans screams being ashamed to be "cis" i.e. your true form. Just my transphobic opinion.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That's a very interesting way of looking at these things. Do you think it's not possible to be trans and have self-love? Or do you think that transition itself is antithetical to self-love?

My only contention with this 'transphobic opinion' (that made me lol btw) is that I don't believe transition is necessarily a changing of a person for everyone, but rather maybe more akin to 'coming out' as gay, lesbian and bi people might. So, less of a change and more of a dropping a charade or no longer holding oneself back from being themselves. For me, I saw it as an act of self-love and self-kindness because I learned the hard way that I really wanted to live, which wasn't likely to go on much longer otherwise. And it was less of a change and more just letting me be myself, or at least that's how I see it.