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[–]worried19[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Good point. Many languages don't offer the option of custom-made pronouns to begin with.

when moderators said "today we all fae/fer/fis" to support this day.

Good grief. They actually used that as an example? Also, doesn't it defeat the purpose if they're imposing a pronoun rather than letting people decide for themselves?

[–]MezozoicGaygay male 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They actually used that as an example?

Yes and it was something different to your regular "fae" one. I am already can't remember that one, and now they introducing same, but slightly different one (and I still don't know how pronounce it, neither do people I've asked).

It is almost as confusing the "he/her" and "she/his" ones. I've seen something like "Brother of X went to a party. X thought about this, and she decided to go to a party too, so she took his bag and went to a party". I thought that "his bag" was about "brother of X", but no - it was about X. Pronouns are used only as a third person - when person is not present. So how I was supposed to know that person in question is she/his, as they never told me their pronouns and were not in conversation? And what if X's brother was "She/his" too? Than "she" there could be about him as well. This just makes no sense and super confusing, especially for not native English speaker, especially when mother tongue is gendered and "pro-drop", so in half of places pronouns are not even used, as they are understandable from context (like example above will sound "Brother of X went to a party. X thought about this and decided to go to a party too, took bag and followed").

Also, doesn't it defeat the purpose if they're imposing a pronoun rather than letting people decide for themselves?

I am pretty sure majority of casual people have no idea what it is and not really care much, just trying to be trendy and to not "hurt anyone".