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[–]worried19[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That's interesting. I'm younger than you are, but maybe I was more sheltered. A lot of the things you listed would never in a million years have occurred to me. They're just totally outside my frame of reference and experience.

[–]divingrightintowork 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But it wasn't about being sheltered, it was understanding that there were no literal or material rules or laws that were stopping anyone from doing any of these things, by and large.. And I always understood that.

like sure at one point I was told you had to wait until marriage before having sex, and I kind of knew what marriage was, I didn't really know what sex was, like in any way I really thought about, anymore that I knew what living in Africa was like (I didn't know it living in Africa was like).

And then some point when I was a teenager, I had a better understanding of what sex was, and saw no real reason as to why you couldn't wait until marriage to have it, but also why you couldn't have it with anyone you wanted, because what did being in a relationship with one person have anything to do with what you did with other people?

Like that was intuitive. Similarly, why couldn't a person go to great lengths to resemble another sex than their own? Why couldn't you be in a romantic relationship with more than one person?

Basically the answer to all of these things is social pressure, but that doesn't literally stop anyone, therefore anyone could do that if that's what they really want to do.

Does that make sense?

(For context I grew up in a conservative Catholic family, in a very homogenous suburban area, but a metropolitan suburban area But still very homogenous).