I think trans people should be able to handle being called different pronouns than the ones they prefer.

However, I think in some ways it can be argued that men shouldn't have the same free speech rights as women, because they tend to weaponise their speech. I can easily see how a far-right radio host consistently "misgendering" & dead-naming trans-women in an aggressive way could insight his male listeners to violence.

There should probably just be a higher threshold for women than men, generally. For instance, a man saying he hates women is dangerous, while a woman saying she hates men is innocuous & if anything a reason for celebration. But people hate these "double-standards" because "equality". I'd argue that applying the same androcentric standard for women is sexist, as well as taking words out of context (the context being: a society with a systemic sexism problem, women hating men is like poor people hating rich ones – perfectly acceptable).

Personally, I always use a person's preferred pronouns.

I think gender-neutral pronouns only make sense if you use them for everyone, regardless.