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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

This is going to sound woo as all fuck, but . . . I've never had a "type," I just know it when I see it. I've dated across ethnicities and varying degrees of neutral-to-masc, long hair, short hair, etc. I've tried to figure out a pattern and honestly I can't -- I just know it in my gut when I click with someone.

Very helpful, I know. 😄 I guess I'm here if you need an outlier to your thesis of attraction patterns.

[–]worried19[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Thanks for replying. I think that makes plenty of sense. I'm sure there are tons of people out there who don't have a particular type. If you click with someone, you just click.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I wish there were a way to quantify it though. My rational brain wants there to be a pattern -- pheromones? voice timbre? ears of even height? -- but I just have to ride with the woo I guess.

[–]worried19[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Does your attraction extend to both sexes?

If wonder if bisexuals may be more likely not to have a masculine or feminine preference, yet I've also seen some bisexual people say they have very strong preferences, and that what they like may be different depending on the sex of the person.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, it does, actually.

Thinking about it . . . okay, these aren't physical or sexual aspects, but "basic competence and having one's shit together" is very attractive to me. Doesn't have to be butch/masc, just --- functional. I guess I could say I'm not attracted to flighty, hand-wringing, "helpless" stereotypes of feminine behavior . . . or the hypermasculine extreme, either. I've never really thought it through like this before. 🤔

[–]worried19[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think I'm pretty much the same. I have a strong physical type, but in terms of personality, I'm not attracted to anything extreme. The feminine stereotype is unappealing, but I have an even stronger aversion to "macho" behavior in men. That puts me off entirely.