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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, it does, actually.

Thinking about it . . . okay, these aren't physical or sexual aspects, but "basic competence and having one's shit together" is very attractive to me. Doesn't have to be butch/masc, just --- functional. I guess I could say I'm not attracted to flighty, hand-wringing, "helpless" stereotypes of feminine behavior . . . or the hypermasculine extreme, either. I've never really thought it through like this before. 🤔

[–]worried19[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think I'm pretty much the same. I have a strong physical type, but in terms of personality, I'm not attracted to anything extreme. The feminine stereotype is unappealing, but I have an even stronger aversion to "macho" behavior in men. That puts me off entirely.