I need advice, I want to get my brain out of the gutter for good. Can you give me advice on how to do that?

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[–]carn0ld03 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Have you tried https://www.nofap.com?

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Probably not a good idea. That will only make him want to watch more porn, because the longer you go the hornier and more desperate you get.

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That's true, but once you are in a state of sobriety, you're not as desensitized and horny for the wrong reason. Hopefully, when I find the right one, my lust for porn rebrands itself into lust for my lover. I would rather get horny and desperate for a real-life woman, rather than a pixelated bootleg copy of one.

[–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's barely different. It's better to tame your lust so you think and act clearly, with your head and heart, not your balls. You do not have to find a lover and get married just because everyone else is doing it.

I'd steer clear of porn, since it degrades people and reduces them to sex objects. But marriage and even relationships are a commitment, one most follow the herd into without thinking. I don't see much good in either. And you know you're allowed to be friends with and love someone who isn't a SO, not everything in life has to be about sex. I don't care what nature intends, screw nature.

Idk, maybe I don't understand shit because for some reason all my fantasies revolve around long-term bondage instead of sex.