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[–]Chipit[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

So, let's blame the rape victims instead of the powerful people who hurt them. Real nice there! Totally punching down and bullying the little guy.

Why is the automatic impulse not to punch up on the powerful? The ones who literally get away with rape and murder?

[–]SoCo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

It's not victim blaming at all and it is a thought terminating cliche to pretend it is.

Instead, it is acknowledging the real cycle of sexual abuse and how lack of effective mental health and sexual abuse trauma treatment leads to a cycle of more sexual abuse and risky behavior.

This pattern of seeking older men is still difficult to prevent, even with all the counseling, mental health programs, advocacy, in-patient treatments, and medications available, as well as close police support, safety monitoring, and aggressively pursuing criminal charges resulting in putting multiple predatory old men in prison for 5+ years, I've found. Teenagers with trauma and/or mental health issues are a difficult challenge, with lacking resources, legal barriers, and authority limitations that feel pretty limited to a parent. It is the confusing and counter-intuitive seeking of the same dangerous situations that seem the most troubling.

[–]Chipit[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

It's blaming the victim instead of the powerful men who sexually abuse them and it's disgusting. Stop doing it.

[–]SoCo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I'm not blaming anyone, just stating general observed facts relevant to the comment I replied to, unfortunately, from the expert perspective of a parent.

Stop being disingenuous and using emotional tricks to try to censor the topic.

[–]Chipit[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Nobody's doing any censorship. It's literally impossible. I'm saying stop blaming the victim, is that really so hard? Direct your attacks at the powerful people who are pieces of shit. That should come naturally if you're a real person. We all hate the powerful, they hurt us all the time.

[–]SoCo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I've never blamed the victim. Please stop saying I did and leave me alone.

[–]Chipit[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's time for you to click the "block user" button underneath this comment.