Men are biologically predisposed to be miserable and most have no hope of a fulfilling life no matter how lucky they are

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[–]Node 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

What about the other way around?

It's impossible for me to be happy with a negative situation.

Consider the possibility that changing your mind on this might be possible, and that your thoughts about "your maleness" could become more positive, or at least less negative.

You obviously remain negative about it at the moment, but people can and do change their perspectives.

You're familiar with that phenomenon where people become hyper-conscious of something, and they then see it everywhere? (like a car you just bought, now you see them everywhere you go) Same kind of thing applies to aspects of your self. At the moment, anything that could be considered negative grabs your attention. You've made whole lists of those negatives.

Think about what might happen if you consciously looked for positive aspects of yourself. Impossible, because there aren't any, right? No, incorrect. Those positives exist, you're just focusing on the negatives.

Anyway, the above is just my clumsy way of saying that either by yourself, or with help, it's likely that you could become happier about your current existence.

The downside here is that it generally takes more than a comment on the internet to nudge someone out of their groove, or habitual way of thinking. There's also your issue, which may make it harder, but also may become an asset if you were to commit.

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[–]Vulptex[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I do have positive attributes, it would be silly to think otherwise. They're just far outweighed by my negative ones. And ultimately, the fact that my emotional and perceptive baseline sucks alone is enough to ruin everything. And that's mostly not something I can change, it's hardwired into males to make us better fighters and laborers and such.

[–]Node 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

the fact that my emotional and perceptive baseline sucks alone is enough to ruin everything.

I don't know enough about that to address it specifically. People underestimate how much they can change their "lived experience", but it can seem unrealistic until you do so.

If you had the funds and a strong desire, I'd send you off to do CBT, NLP, or something similar. These can be more of an art than a standard procedure, and the qualities of the patient/practitioner relationship can be critical.

Anyway, hope this becomes less of a problem for you in the future.