The op is right this Is why I say don't kick out heterosexual allies. I once concocted a bit of a story/metaphor regarding this when I was again feeling persecution by the hyper radicalized evangelicals(everyone's favorites lol) and my metaphor was like this if you're phobic and untrusting and grossly disrespectful of their wishes the person you made to feel terrible might not be there when you desperately need it and worse? They could recruit others. A bridge once burned can be so hard to rebuild and may never be rebuilt properly again. That's why the straight allies you can find are worth holding onto. Same with non religious allies and the evangelists. Don't burn bridges this is coming from someone who isn't as close as she'd like to be with those she should be the closest to. Sorry if that sounds like projection but it's the truth bridges burned at times are hard to rebuild. I'm looking sadly at heterophobe for life as well. Desire to sneer derisively at heterosexuals for some of their behavior but remember with the t, the q, the "2 spirits" demanding everything they want and getting it you're going to need voices. So don't burn.