My husband just spent $1400 on women's clothes

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[–]xoenix[S] 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Based DM.

[–]jet199 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She leaving, that's good

[–]LtGreenCo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Skimmed some of the other posts in that sub and it seems to be full of people with a weird kind of Stockholm Syndrome where they're dealing with a lot of insane and emotionally manipulative abuse from their tranny partners but can't bring themselves to leave.

[–]jet199 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

These guys mostly have narcissistic personality disorder so they will have been controlling and manipulative the whole relationship not just when they decided to troon out.

[–]alladd 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

All the "they're not losing a father, they're meeting their new mom" or "they're shedding a mask they had to wear" shit is so depressing, because like...you mean to tell me that the real parent all along was some gross pornified schoolgirl fantasy? That's the true authentic person this child should be looking up to?

[–]NastyWetSmear 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (15 children)

Hmmm... At a glance, this feels like a troll: Everything so obviously points to this being an autogynephilic fetish that it could have had sign posts and neonlights, and the only other post by this person was 6 days before about how their husband being trans makes them feel like their whole life was a lie.

I think someone made this account to toss obvious warning signs into the faces of people on Reddit and watch them squirm as they try everything they can not to state what is apparent to everyone: You were lied to, your husband just has a creepy fetish and this whole thing would make any grown person uncomfortable.

[–]xoenix[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

It does seem like a good way to stealth in a verboten topic, even with a new account. Hard to believe many of the posts on that sub are genuine TBH.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

A fair assessment. Reddit after all so text posts have about as much veracity as bathroom stall scribbles. (Call this number for a good time! (It was not a good time))

I've known of a couple of people in similar situations though so even if it is fake it tracks with the stereotypical situation I think.

I guess the biggest thing about the Reddit posts that confuses me isn't so much the situation per say, it's basically why the woman is bothering to post on reddit for advice rather than just going with the obvious common sense solutions of "why the fuck you doing that? Stop or I'll leave"

Then again it's Reddit so people are stupid.

[–]xoenix[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

In this thread she says she DMed the woman, who is probably going to leave him. If it's real, then how sad for someone to find out the hard truth this way.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've always thought it's the denial that it's some weird fetish and the whole exhibitionist side of it that's the real problem. I can't imagine it tanking a marriage if the guy is just like "yeah this turns me on" and keeps a lid on it in public. Though I guess maybe many such cases may exist and we just never hear about them.

It's always the Identity stuff that causes problems. Friend of my had a similar situation but the genders were reversed. Guys wife decided she was a man and then slowly started demanding more and more. Shit fell apart, lasted longer than it should of probably because he's in more, I don't like the word liberal, I guess retarded circles? Most people I know even if they are pretty trans positive are going to say yeah, you transition after marriage that's pretty much grounds for divorce.

I'm not sure what the female equivalent of aitogynophilia is, seems less sexual to me and more a social personality disorder. In the male cases like this typically the closeted autogynophile will seek out some woman with co-dependent tendencies get her pregnant or otherwise in a very sticky situation where it's difficult to leave, then transition and make the women pay for it, after which point when he's done with the transition he'll usually find someone else and leave the woman high and dry anyway as he seeks sexual gratification elsewhere. The woman is essentially a tool to be used for transition, a resource if you will to be used and discarded when convenient. So in such a situation my advice to the woman will always be "leave now and don't look back, it's unfortunate you were tricked into this situation, but while the best time to leave was before the relationship got serious, the second best time is right now, things will only get worse later"

With the women transitioning in relationships, which I've seen far less of so I'm not sure the motivations, it usually seems like the woman has some kind of, I guess an inferiority complex? They feel like they need to be a man to be taken seriously or something stupid like that, they act like someone trying to give a bad impression of a man or act like a man who is pretending to be a woman poorly. Always seem really high strung, I believe the English word is "high maintenance girlfriend". I don't have much first hand experience as they are usually quick to identify me as a hostile element and work to get their boyfriend to distance themselves. The boyfriend naturally will do so because he is in love and can't see things logically.

I'm thankfully spared from having to deal with most of the fallout from these things going south though because by the time they do so I've largely been written out of the picture. It's like, well you are asking me for advice on this relationship, way I see it your partner isn't the person you thought they were and you aren't going to like that, your choices are basically either to quit now while you are ahead, or be miserable for a long time before realizing my advice to quit now was correct. I guess there's a third option which is to go to your partner and lay down the ultimatum "quit this shit right now or I'll leave you" but that's not a move that you make without being serious about leaving. And frankly I think it's better to just leave and find someone without such baggage anyway.

I mean if I was in this women's situation, here's how I'd have handled this.

"Honey I'm pregnant!"

"That's great! I have something to tell you! I'm actually a Woman and I'm spending 1400 on lingerie"

"That's great, here's some divorce papers. Bye.".

[–]Musky༼⁠ ⁠つ⁠ ⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠ ⁠༽⁠つ 🐈 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (10 children)

It's Reddit so who knows, but alternatively this may simply be a very typical experience. It's not the first time I've heard it. @AskaTransWidow on X had a pretty similar experience.

Boy meets girl.
Boy falls for girl.
Boy discovers sissy hypno porn & thinks he's a girl.

A new story for the ages.

[–]NastyWetSmear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Boy discovers sissy hypno porn & thinks he's a girl.

Y... I'm sorry, what?

[–]Musky༼⁠ ⁠つ⁠ ⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠ ⁠༽⁠つ 🐈 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

It's a common attribute among m2fs, along with autism and being obsessed with anime. A disturbing number say they transitioned after they started watching a lot of sissy hypno porn. They even joke with each other about it.

I think the basic idea of the genre is a man is hypnotized into acting like a helplessly submissive woman and performing sexual acts.

[–]NastyWetSmear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Okay, but we aren't under the illusion that "Sissy Hypnosis Porn" actually worked on these people, right? You got 0 chance of me looking it up to see what it's like, but we're all confident that this is a symptom of their problem, not the cause.

I'm only asking because I sometimes see some outrageous claims around here, so I wanna make sure we're all on the same page: Nobody is getting mind controlled by anything found for free on porn hub. Hypnosis is lucky if it can calm you down before you have to sing in front of your school, let alone make a man think he's a woman.

[–]Musky༼⁠ ⁠つ⁠ ⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠ ⁠༽⁠つ 🐈 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

There's a correlation, I don't know which way it goes. I am not suggesting they were hypnotized by porn, but they're maybe being negatively influenced by it.

[–]NastyWetSmear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Nah, mate. They are unwell and have a fetish, so they look up this kind of stuff. There's no actual mind altering hypnosis going on in the porn industry.

Man, if there was? Can you imagine? Captured Isis terrorists being forced to watch: "Stop acting like a crazy cunt, you fucking idiot" porn? People arguing over the ethics of using porn on prisoners for rehabilitation?

In this case, there's no Chicken and Egg confusion - People in an asylum who think they are Napoleon are looking up Napoleon porn, it's not Napoleon porn making people think they are Napoleon.

[–]Musky༼⁠ ⁠つ⁠ ⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠ ⁠༽⁠つ 🐈 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hypnosis no, mind altering possibly. People can screw up their reward pathways.

[–]TaseAFeminist4Jesus 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Nobody is getting mind controlled by anything found for free on porn hub.

Not sure I believe that

[–]NastyWetSmear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well, you let MKUltra know that the secret was sissy hypno porn all along.

[–]TaseAFeminist4Jesus 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean, the premise of the videos - that they'll hypnotize you into becoming a transvestite - is an oversell, but those videos are not harmless. I bet a lot of autogynophiles have watched them extensively, and I bet this contributed to the extreme nature of what these people are doing to indulge themselves.

[–]NastyWetSmear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Nah, this is a Chicken vs Egg argument again. If you're sick in the head, you look for porn to hypnotize you to become a femboy. If you're healthy, and you stumble upon porn to hypnotize you into becoming a femboy, you could watch it for hours without impact... Except, I assume, to lose any desire you had to watch porn.

The porn industry haven't cracked the secret of hypnosis and mind control. It's never worked, it's just one of those things people like to imagine working. A spinning spiral and suddenly a woman is your servant. A swinging watch and suddenly she doesn't know she's naked... Or, in this case, a flashing light and... Suddenly you want to wear panties?

Sick people seek out sick things and do sick things. This is no different than blaming video games for violence. Violent people do stupid shit. It wasn't Grand Theft Auto that did it, they were always in need of a bullet.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

On the subject of "why would you get a bra when you don't have boobs" my first gender euphoria came from wearing a bra and a skirt and finally confirming that "this feels right, this is me." The boobs come later, the euphoria need is now. He spent too much for sure and that kind of money needs to be discussed, I don't think I've spent 1000 yet in the last decade on clothes, but I've definitely dropped a hundred or two in one go a couple times for an impulse buy for euphoria reasons.

Lol. That's because it's a fetish.

[–]IkeConn 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Bless her heart.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And then he started talking about how he makes $5000 more than me per year and that this was from that difference and this made me really angry and I found it very patronizing and I told him that he only made more because he was a man and this really upset him and he found it super triggering which I thought was kinda pathetic.

Also ROFTLOL. You're triggering the guy by saying he makes more money. Now he thinks that is disphoric only a matter of time before he decides the womanly thing to do is to quit his job and make you work instead.

Of course that's pathetic.