UPDATE: My GF found out I was trans

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[–]Wanderingthehalls 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Is it all made up? Or was the girlfriend an extremely neuro-divergent virgin? Because she was supposedly in a relationship for 18 months with a trans man and didn't know. You can't have sex with a neo penis. Even if she somehow couldn't work out that her 'boyfriend' was a woman from talking and interacting with someone with a woman's frame and way of moving. The neo penis is going to be a dead giveaway because it's a dead roll of skin and nothing remotely like a penis.

To top it off, these two actually grew up together as teenagers and at no point does the girlfriend recognise her as the same person. Nor does the OP slip up and mention a shared experience they had as girls. It's all a complete fantasy.

[–]ClassroomPast6178 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

There’s been a couple of prosecutions in England of women (not troonettes) who tricked other women into sexual relationships whilst pretending to be men.

Blade Silvano, guilty of multiple sexual assaults

Georgia Bilham, guilty of one sexual assault but cleared of multiple other counts

So, whilst I’m sceptical about anything posted to Reddit, I don’t think it is as clear cut as you make out.

You can't have sex with a neo penis.

Why do you say that?

[–]Wanderingthehalls 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The women victims in those cases were quite low iq (in the factual sense) though weren't they? At least in one of those cases. And the penetration happened with a dildo not a neo-penis.

As for having sex with a neo-penis, it's a roll of skin from the thigh or forearm. Mostly that's all they are, so you can't have sex with a roll of flacid skin. Occasionally they have a tube put into them that can be inflated with air from an attached pump, which will sometimes be in a fake testicle. That will make it less flacid but it's still a roll of skin around a tube of air. That's the absolute best, most expensive and rare type of neo-penis. It's not going to work like a penis. It won't look like a penis, feel like a penis, move like a penis. If penetration is even possible with an inflated skin tube, which I'm genuinely unconvinced it would be. As it's usually positioned above the pelvic area that any sort of controlled thrust is possible from. With a real penis, that's only semi-erect, penetration is very difficult as the vaginal muscles tend to push the flacidity away. And that's with a real penis, that is coming from the right region of the male body that humans evolved to make copulation possible. And quite honestly, considering that it's a roll of skin wrapped around an inflatable tube, stitched on top of a human pelvis. It's really, really, really high risk of constant infection. There is a reason that the posters on KiwiFarms call them rot-dogs. The underside of the neo-penis is often covered in infected sores.

[–]slavdude0 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why do you say that?

Because that's true? I mean... Of course you can rape someone with a dildo. But that's rape and not relationship. How the fuck do you see this obviously fake thing again and again and it takes you months to realize?

[–]Tom_Bombadil 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think it's fake shit.

Possibly an ongoing AI generated story(s) to convince Reddit that there's a false social reality out there where others are having problems similar to them, so they're conditioned to the disasters of brainwashed life choices.

Neoliberal ChatGTPwxyz

[–]jet199 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Seeing as it's girls talking it's probably fanfic rather than AI.

So even less realistic.

[–]NormalPear 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"sexual assault"

Hmm.

[–]BluuDegenerate 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

One of the many issues here is how I keep seeing them refer to it being "their past" that ruined everything. This shows the disconnect from reality they have. It's not that "oh my past life as a woman" ruined things, it's your CURRENT life as a woman pretending to be a man. It's not something long since forgotten, it's the active situation. Troons will never understand the perspective of normal people because troons actively keep themselves immersed in a fantasy and refuse to face the reality of the situation. Even posting this to reddit and then going through every positive comment and replying to them like "omg thanks" is just further attempting to delude herself.

[–]xoenix[S] 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Part 1

I've seen posts like this in the past, and I seem to recall more comments recommending early disclosure. Now it seems everyone is ready to burn the girlfriend and her family at the stake.

[–]TaseAFeminist4Jesus 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

SlIpPeRy sLoPE iS a pHaLLusy brOhEim

[–]alladd 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Feel like we're missing a major piece of information here, like the ex-GF is deaf and dumb or clinically brain dead. Or so autistic that she cannot recognize basic human forms.

Alas, probably just a fanfic. OP wants there to be a world in which she passes so well that she "had a cis girlfriend for 9 months, but uh, she like, had to leave, but she was totes real dood"

[–]UncleWillard56 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fake or real, the main point is and always should be, you lied about something very important. There is no nobility in that and no one cares about your privacy in that context.

[–]JulienMayfair 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I think people here are misreading the facts of post. The author is male and has apparently been keeping it a secret from his girlfriend that he thinks he's transgender. It's more revealing to go look at his original post and see how many of them are telling him that it's OK that he concealed this from his gf.

Edit: After looking more into OP's post history, it appears I was wrong, but the fact that it's so hard to tell WTF is going is telling.

[–]xoenix[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I don't think so. In the original post, they were allegedly outed by someone who knew them "from before." Plus they call themselves "a man", so...

[–]JulienMayfair 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Take this line:

I was searching for ways to tell my girlfriend that I was different and not a cis man, but I couldn't bring myself to do it.

Assuming that the gf has seen OP's genitals, gf would definitely know if OP had been born a woman. No phalloplasty is that good. Plus, a trans man would be taking testosterone.

The only way to keep being transgender a secret in an intimate relationship is if you still present as someone whose publicly-known gender matches your biology. Say you're a secret cross-dresser . . .

[–]xoenix[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Maybe it was a no sex before marriage type of relationship. 🤷‍♂️ I could see transgenderism plausibly causing real havoc with the traditionally religious, especially if they're not terribly bright.

Could also be fanfic, AI, bots or whatever.

[–]JulienMayfair 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Actually, it seems you are right. I looked deeper into OP's post history and found one where she's talking about buying a strap-on dick. I think my problem is that I'm part of Gen X, and I can't quite wrap my head around this Gen Z thing of having a relationship that's all about texting and fantasy. I guess OP has been a trans man since she was a teenager since she say she and her gf have known each other since they were teens. And someone gf found out trans man was born a girl.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Or the relationship was mostly feminine pining rather than anything real, like Albert Nobbs.

[–]IkeConn 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Jesus Fucking Christ.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ah.

It’s funny. You can say you are a man, but you still talk like a woman.

Can even tell an interesting story properly.

[–]TitsAndWhiskeyPronoun: My Nigga 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They sure do love to hear themselves talk…