Rip u/d3rr

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[–]magnora7 11 insightful - 8 fun11 insightful - 7 fun12 insightful - 8 fun -  (5 children)

Okay...

So apparently, judging by what I'm seeing, he has just walked away from saidit entirely. Because day before yesterday /u/AXXA changed the rules, and I changed them back, and d3rr had some sort of meltdown about being admin (which was entirely unrelated to the rule change issue) and just left I guess... pretty rash but I understand. He did content admin work for the last 6 months and it was wearing on him, but I had done it for the 2.5 years prior. I thought d3rr was doing a good job moderating the content on saidit, even better than me, honestly.

He was wanting to clarify the rules, so we were building a rule clarification page. This was yesterday.

I talked about opening a new site with higher quality rules, I talked about finding new admins.

I guess he realized he could just walk away, so he did. Funny he did it right after I revealed the reason I had to take a break 6 months ago, which was the admin duties being overwhelming.

Not a great move by d3rr here. Especially deleting the account seems counterproductive. I wish he had used his words and we could've developed a solution instead of making a sudden exit, but that's his choice I guess.

I enjoyed working with him and we've done some great things, and I thought our conversations about the rule clarifications were going in a good way, and now this. But there's always been a bit of tension between us, especially the last couple years, and I'm not sure why, and I try hard to overcome that and but it can be difficult.

So I guess I'm back to running this show again. I still don't know why he deleted his account other than to make some sort of "statement" about how done he is with it. But apparently not only admining it, but also participating at all. I hope he comes back some day. But if he doesn't I guess that's okay too, luckily everything is registered by me, so this won't affect the website being up.

Sucks. I guess I'm running this site again now. D3rr if you see this, I understand and forgive you, it's not a big deal, I don't know why we couldn't work together on this when saidit is currently growing. It hurts, but if it needed to happen then it needed to happen. I walked away too so I can't blame him too much. But I didn't delete my damn account...

His main thing is he was just tired of doing the admin duties 85% by himself (which is what I did for 2.5 years so I totally understand) but we were working toward a solution of rule clarification to help other admins be trained properly to take some workload off of him. But I guess he just decided he was sick of it, and he's done. Deleting the account was an overraction though, but whatever. Saidit will live on.

/u/AXXA do you have any insight on this event?

[–]Foidblaster9000 12 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 5 fun -  (4 children)

You did it for 2.5 years, but there's a huge difference between you doing it because it's your baby, and him possibly even just feeling trapped into it by feelings of obligation. Maybe he wanted to interact with other users here in a way that wasn't molded by acting as admin in your stead. You probably should have asked about the resentment and tension though.

[–]magnora7 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

It's our baby. He and I coded it together.

I wasn't changing anything, I thought things were going well. I was out of his hair. He was tired of doing admin work, but I didn't realize he was so burned out he was going to delete his account.

[–]Foidblaster9000 12 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 5 fun -  (2 children)

Have you paid attention to how he's talked about his role within saidit before? It read more like weary obligation even 6 months ago than any kind of excitement on observation. He might have personal problems going on in his own life recently that made him not want to do the role, or maybe something else got to him. You guys should probably talk about it, since that's a pretty big deal when you're responsible for something as time consuming as taking care of this place is. If you have contacts for him outside of here, I'd recommend giving that a go.

[–]magnora7 10 insightful - 6 fun10 insightful - 5 fun11 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

I wasn't excited about having to be saidit content admin either, but I did it for 2.5 years even during the IP2 stuff. It sucks. No one is excited about it. It's like picking up dog poop. You do it if you want to own a dog. You aren't excited about it, but it just has to be done if you want the dog. Content administration is just something that is necessary for this website to exist. He was very good and strong to step up to the role for the last 6 months in my absence and I honestly thought he was doing a great job, and I think the saidit community agrees.

I'm sure he has stuff going on in his life right now, we all do, this is not a fun time in history. I wish him the best. I just sent him a message thanking him on another platform, good idea. He's a good guy. I'm just kind of in shock a little bit.

[–]Tom_Bombadil 4 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

I did it for 2.5 years even during the IP2 stuff.

Shout out to IP2.