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[–]reluctant_commenter 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I heard anti-lesbian remarks regularly during my childhood, but not so much anymore (moved out and away from those people). Homophobic conservative religion in the US. There's a certain subset of straight women who really hate lesbians specifically...

It impacts me because it is basically why I am ashamed of being a woman attracted to other women. Trying to work on that currently.

[–]Wot 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

There's a certain subset of straight women who really hate lesbians specifically

Have they ever mentioned why?

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, for most that I have heard: "gay men are so cute/wholesome/empathetic because they're gay, I love gay men! Lesbians are gross, two women making out is gross..." These straight women idealize, have crushed on, and sometimes even fetishize gay men, but they are actually homophobic so they are grossed out by lesbian women. I'll link another discussion I was in recently about this.

One person in particular, one of my relatives, is really misogynistic-- she hates pretty much all women (even though she is a woman lol) so that's part of why she hates lesbians so much-- "2 women in a relationship is the worst possible scenario" in her book. It's not logical, it makes no sense, but that's where it comes from. Misogyny and homophobia.

edit: This may not directly answer your question but, about straight women who fetishize gay men: https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7hq3/50_years_after_stonewall_we_are_now_fighting/s6ze

The straight women who I have heard IRL gush over gay men often are very uncomfortable with lesbians, but a few of them go so far as to outright hate lesbians. (I grew up in a homophobic religion though, so YMMV, not all straight women are like this.)