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[–]Wot 8 insightful - 8 fun8 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 8 fun -  (2 children)

I really don't get this sentiment at all. It's like taking issue with the fact that if you have sex then how you're identified changes. We literally live in a world where women and girls are seen as existing for men and babies and if you haven't been with a man then you're strange and even hated. Why would we ever want to silence gold star rethoric when it would be the only thing protecting lesbians from all the ubiquitous and quotidian coercion to be with men? To be normal? If you really think about it, the term lesbian also categorizes ourselves in relation to men because it's about male exclusion. Men exist and in that effect, they always have significance to our sexuality because it's not the norm to exclude them. Good for your if you don't care if a lesbian has been with a man or not. That's not the point. Gold star being amplified could have protected those lesbians in het situations you claim to care about to have never gotten in them if that was a genuine choice for them.

[–]TalerTest 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I was going to respond, but someone else who you also accused of "trying to silence gold stars" already left a perfect response right here.

And what is gold star rhetoric? Isn't that just lesbian rhetoric? "You don't need to have sex with men to know that you're a lesbian" Every lesbian says that.

[–]Wot 9 insightful - 8 fun9 insightful - 7 fun10 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

Gold star rhetoric is literally just their experience which differs from those whose been with men. Its, "I know it's not normal to not have fucked men but I didn't. Here's exactly what that looks like, here's how misconceptions didn't fit as another user here has mentioned, here's how you'll get hate from every direction even your own community as you can see here, etc." Why can't yall just own up to the fact that all yall care about is that it makes some lesbians uncomfortable and that's worth trying to silence other lesbians about? Because, if the idea being perpetuate by all lesbians is that you don't need to sleep with men for any reason then you're literally trying to build the gold star community and simultaneously telling them to go away.