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[–]Icebridge 11 insightful - 5 fun11 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

I'm a gold star lesbian (and even platinum star, as ive recently learned that term lol) I've never meant it to mean I'm better than non goldstar lesbians, but I'm definitely better than "lesbians" who arent homosexual 😂 Tbh though i feel its not as useful a term as people treat it and i dont think it really encapsulates my experience. I feel it sort of implies you had an easy life / were confident without internalized homophobia, but I struggled a lot, just the thought of being physically intimate in any way with a male person makes me feel disgusted so i couldnt do it.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Seriously. Nongoldstars really think we're "elitist" and "privileged" just because we knew at an early age. Yeah, that made it worse. Walking around at 12yo knowing you're a big freak and different (in bad way) from all the other girls doesn't inspire "elitism" 10 years later.

It's also bullshit to assume that just because we first knew we were lesbians when young means we also accepted it that young. I know I didn't.

Also: yes, gay men do go by goldstar sometimes (seen some people in this thread saying gay men don't do this shit. yes they do). why would you expect something that started with lesbians to be as big with gay men? in fact, their version of platinum star is a gay man born through C-section (which is probably more of a joke).

[–]LenaScrpn1111 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Wait, what’s platinum star? Tried looking it up and got more than one answer.

[–]StoneyTangawizi1 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It means a lesbian who never been with a guy in anyway whether kissing, dating one or fucking/doing anything sexual with one. It was a term coined to be different from goldstars, who might have kiss or date but never fuck/been sexually intimate with a dude.