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[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

So there is much less forced marriage on lesbians in where you live now?

Yeah, and mostly happening in small villages, or when bullied by surroundings. In bigger cities it is almost never happening, and nowadays our country is the least homophobic from post-USSR countries.

There are bisexual women who never been with males? How common is that phenomenon? I think its pretty rare. So you mean bisexual women are using that term to bully even lesbians? That's so strange to me.

Well, there are febfems. And there are "Virgin until marriage" - I knew at least one such bisexual, so they are sleeping with women only, because to them "sex without penis is not real sex, so they are still virgins". She was claiming to be "gold star lesbian" and was bullying lesbians around, but then jumped into marriage at around age of 25 and said like "I was always waiting for a good man, and wanted to be a virgin for him".

[–]StoneyTangawizi1 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah, and mostly happening in small villages, or when bullied by surroundings. In bigger cities it is almost never happening, and nowadays our country is the least homophobic from post-USSR countries.

Great to hear that it is much less common now. Is this Ukraine? How common are goldstars among younger lesbians that you met?

Well, there are febfems. And there are "Virgin until marriage" - I knew at least one such bisexual, so they are sleeping with women only, because to them "sex without penis is not real sex, so they are still virgins". She was claiming to be "gold star lesbian" and was bullying lesbians around, but then jumped into marriage at around age of 25 and said like "I was always waiting for a good man, and wanted to be a virgin for him".

What? That's crazy. I never heard of bisexuals claiming to be "goldstar lesbian". Although I do heard of reddit stories, where a supposed "goldstar lesbian" just suddenly wake up one day feeling attracted to a guy and wanted to date or be with him. But I don't know do those ones intentionally lied about being "goldstar" or just didn't know that they are latebloomer bisexuals.

And that's really lesbophobic: the sex without dick is not real sex and make them virgins part.

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

How common are goldstars among younger lesbians that you met?

I think majority. I would be one myself too, if not tried to make conversion therapy on myself, lol.

And that's really lesbophobic: the sex without dick is not real sex and make them virgins part.

I actually see such attitude from almost everywhere in the world, mostly from men, but often from straight and bi women too.

[–]StoneyTangawizi1 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think majority. I would be one myself too, if not tried to make conversion therapy on myself, lol.

Even among those your age range? (sorry I don't know how old you are). Do you think goldstars are more common in where you live (Ukraine?) than in Western countries?

I actually see such attitude from almost everywhere in the world, mostly from men, but often from straight and bi women too.

Yes and it seems men are very disgusting and obnoxious with this attitude. Straight women also? Believe it or not, but I also have heard it from so-called "lesbians" as well especially from Tumblr, with this mentality, "goldstars are virgins forever until they die because sex without dick is not actual sex" but I feel they are just self-hating bisexuals ashamed of their sexuality or straight "political lesbians".

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Even among those your age range?

Depends on region I'd say. My age should be maybe 50/50, nowadays I don't know, but maybe 90/10. We still have homophobia, but not invasive one, people can joke rude or dont respect you, but most would not touch you or your life. It is a bit worse in small religious villages, tho.

Do you think goldstars are more common in where you live (Ukraine?) than in Western countries?

I have no idea. Depends on country, I guess? I often see posts about USA and that society pressures to lose virginity as fast as possible, but most lesbians who are writing it are gold stars, so I can't really say, lol.

Yes and it seems men are very disgusting and obnoxious with this attitude.

Well, tag "lesbians" is #1 or #2 in the world among men. So seems a lot of men believing that lesbians exist to please them.

I also have heard it from so-called "lesbians" as well especially from Tumblr, with this mentality, "goldstars are virgins forever until they die because sex without dick is not actual sex" but I feel they are just self-hating bisexuals ashamed of their sexuality or straight "political lesbians".

Maybe they just too caught in kool-aid and heteronormativity. Especially if they still believe into "virginity is not lost if hymen is there". This is disgusting thing, tho, as it leads with its roots into FGM that is still practiced in some parts of the world, mostly muslim countries, when young girl vulva is sewn up so "no one can rape her" (why not cut penises to rapists instead?!) and then cut during first wedding night, and then men celebrating, while wife is recovering few weeks. It is so disgusting, and it is still staying there with "hymen" virginity and "first wedding night" traditions. Sorry, I think I went somewere too off the topic, lol.