Apologies for the long response but arguments take background info.

Before you don't read my response, I linked articles that are not republican leaning. Nbc, fact check.com, the hill.com, are all not republican leaning. The judicial watch link is a conservative leaning website, but what they did was subpoena the secret service for a record. The secret service acknowledged that it existed at one point. That it was of an altercation between Joe and one of his detail at a Christmas party/ photo opp. It was "destroyed". Multiple agents have said why he got into a fight with Joe that night.

I think you have a point that republican's end goals for Row v Wade is to abolish all abortion. I do agree that that is a definite voting point for women. I do see that that would guide most women away from voting for trump but I don't think trump has a personal goal to abolish all abortion. A lot of what the moderate right( not social conservatives) has an issue with is elective late term abortion. It does make me fear that they will keep trying to knock back viability so that no one can have an abortion. I am more on the pro choice side but the democrats answer to this is to pack the supreme court. Do you know how damaging that is to a constitutional republic, it undermines the people's right to a fair judiciary. What's to stop republican's from doing it if they win an election. What happens then? The courts have 30 judges and every year it grows. Then there comes a time for a process for getting rid of judges, who gets to decide that?We elect a president, they appoint a judge. That's been a pretty stable system for two hundred or so years.

On the homophobic point, I think trump said once that he did not believe in gay marriage. I think he flip flops on the issue because of an Evangelical base, but I think his personal opinion is indifferent to supportive in private life of personal friends.

https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/news/305803-trump-diverts-from-gop-fine-with-supreme-courts-gay-marriage

Being against gay marriage was not a rare belief five years ago and I think it's still common today. You know who didn't support gay marriage and actually publicly opposed it, Joe Biden. He voted for the defense of marriage act and is also now supporting crazy trans stuff like children transitioning( which I think hurts gay people and effectively sterilizes young confused gay people).

Trump has talked about gay marriage before in the 90s and he apparently supported the idea of civil unions/ marriage and spoke about hiring gay people when it was still not very popular to talk about.This was in a gay magazine The Advocate. Apparently he is also leading a global initiative to decriminalize homosexuality around the world.

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/national-security/trump-administration-launches-global-effort-end-criminalization-homosexuality-n973081

I think it's lead by Richard Grinnell, a gay man who was the ambassador to Germany and director on national intelligence. This man was not a diversity hire, he was qualified and he was gay and Trump hired him.( Obama biden adminstration had no gay people working in high cabinet office positions) Is that homophobic? There are also several openly gay judges that he appointed to the federal courts ( Patric Bumatay is one example). Gorsuch a supreme court Trump appointee, led a opinion to include sexual orientation and identity in a work based discrimination case. I know we all think that the appointed judges will try and take all our rights away but their job is to interpret the law, not to make law. And I have not seen public support or plans to take a case to the supreme court to review the 2015 marriage decision.

On the sexism, do you really think Joe Biden is not a sexist or sexual assaulter. I know trump is a major creep but Joe is as well, it's just not as popular to talk about. There was a physical fight biden had with one of his secret service agents because he apparently grabbed his girlfriend's breasts while taking a picture at a Christmas party.

https://justthenews.com/politics-policy/elections/judicial-watch-sues-dhs-gain-access-file-altercation-between-biden-and

Tara Reid accused him of assaulting her, over 20 years ago, there are records of her calling into a show to talk about getting assaulted by a senator around the time she claims to have been assaulted ahe was also working for his election campaign at the time. Blasey Ford had no such ability to connect any allegations to the time period of the claim that she was gang raped repeatedly at a party that she said she went to with her friend. Why I bought up ford is because we are supposed to believe all women. If that were true why didn't you hear about Tara Reed or that secret service agent. There is also many complaints from female security that biden would swim naked in the morning. Which I have to say is a little creepy even though it's their job to protect him and blend into the background, it's kinda gross to just walk around with your dick out.

On racism, give me one example of trump saying something racist about the black community. He denounced white supremacists like 30 or so times since Charlotte and did so when he made that statement about good people on both sides. The coverage on that one is amaze balls, how you can call that journalism is beyond me. In the same sentence he said that the Neo Nazis and white supremacists are condemnable people . Something people seem to forget is Joe implied blacks were not black if they didn't vote for him, accusing one man of being a crackhead, because he said something he disagreed with. Is that racist and offensive? I'd say, yeah.

https://www.factcheck.org/2020/02/trump-has-condemned-white-supremacists/

On the Hispanic front, you have to understand context matters. He was making a speech about border security. He made a reference to the coyotes that ferry people across the border illegally. I remember because I was watching the news, when he made those statements. These are people who work for the cartel and have a reputation for raping women who are alone in the border crossing group. That is why he said Mexican rapists. It's true those men are rapists and I'd argue most of the cartel coyotes are murderers as well. Do we really want them to walk across the border to then turn a gun on the women/children in the group and say your family hasn't paid your debt. Do you really think that that is a good system for immigration along with the economic impact that the illegal immigration brings?

My most important point, lesbians are not a monolith. We are all individuals who are free to decide who we want to support based on things that have nothing to do with being a lesbian. It does not make us bad lesbians or in your words"disappointments" just because you have not heard the other side of the argument or just disagree with us.

Based on what I know both candidates are pigs, both disregard women's autonomy, one in a conservative way and one in a woke progressive way. Both have said offensive things about different races or in context of talking about race. Only one implied that they feel ownership on black american votes, and in a very nasty way proclaimed that if you don't think alike you are not of the same race. So, they are both fairly offensive men, now who should i vote for again?

Could you please give me some response cuz I took my time to write this out. I'm giving you my evidence as to why I don't have a massive disregard for the things you listed. Like I said genuinely want a conversation on why Joe Biden is the only choice for me.