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[–]emilyprentiss 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Meeting a potential partner I assume you mean dating? I think these you can tell from thirty minutes of being on a date with a woman:

Green flags: Respectful about your boundaries, polite when interacting with customer service staff (baristas, servers, cleaners), interested in what you have to say.

Red flags: The opposite of all the green flag examples, and talking about her ex too much.

In a relationship, same things as above, and extra qualities you will discover with time:

Green flags: willing to grow as a person with you, mature enough to communicate clearly, able to admit mistakes and apologise when wrong.

Red flags: dishonest, terrible with money, cruel to animals and children.

These are the fundamental ones, I believe. The relationship green flags are actually quite difficult to achieve, even as an individual as they require a certain level of maturity and kindness.

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In my personal experience, red flags would include: no regard for your time, lack of empathy toward others, no goals or ambitions, and threatens self harm.

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Red flags: controlling behaviour, doesn't like it when you disagree, can't compromise / be flexible. Aggressive or passive-aggressive. Not good with money, not going anywhere in life / doesn't have a plan to get anywhere in life. Insecure.

Green flags: similar values and life goals. You can work well together as a team. You feel happy and relaxed with them.

Hard pass: poly-amorous, anyone who will cheat with you, people who make their political views their identity.